He wrote, “Another time, she accused me of trying to hog the kids even though I hadn’t been home all day. She hated me babywearing. I was screamed at for picking the kids up from her parents’ house once.
She was at an appointment, and I was getting off work, so I thought it made sense. But she told me she’d decided to leave them with her parents, so I should respect that. I told her I was just as capable of taking care of them as she was.
She was hospitalized briefly a couple of months ago, and that’s when I reached my breaking point. I took a few days off work so I could stay with the kids, but she kept insisting I go back to work and let her parents take them until she got home. She even screamed at me from the hospital because I had the kids.
She sent her parents twice to try to take them from me. When she recovered, I told her things couldn’t go on like this. If this was how it would always be, we should divorce.
She screamed and said I’d be the villain for destroying our family and breaking our kids’ stability. Even my own parents told me I should find a way to make it work. But she refuses to sit down and talk.
Therapy is out of the question for her, and I don’t want the kids to keep witnessing fights every time I interact with even one of them. Should I divorce her?”
Reddit community had a lot to say in the comments. People were extremely active in the comments under the man’s desperate post.
With over 2,6K comments, it’s clear that the OP’s story provoked various emotions and absolutely explosive opinions. One user wrote, “You’re not in a wrong but TBH, she does need therapy badly. But if you want to divorce, you should really document this behavior and get stuff together because she’s going to go for full custody.”
Another person suggested, “Listen there is something seriously wrong here, she needs help, if I were you, I’d talk to her parents privately and try to get to the bottom of what is wrong.
My first thought throughout reading was she was mistreated as a child. It sounds like this is because she’s afraid of you being alone with them, you can’t go on like this, and you don’t deserve to be treated like this.”
One more person commented, “Normal people are appalled by her behavior. If they find nothing wrong with it, then there’s a lot going on there.”
Another user advised, “Please check up the laws in your country/state and start recording things where allowed.
And if any doctors or nurses were witness to her behavior toward you about the kids when she was in the hospital, see if you can get a statement from them.”
Someone explained, “Parenting is supposed to be a partnership, not one person gatekeeping the kids while the other gets treated like an outsider. You’ve tried communicating, you’ve offered therapy, and she still refuses to even talk it out. That’s not just a parenting issue — that’s a control and respect issue.
Your kids deserve to have a voice in their upbringing. Divorce isn’t destroying the family — her refusal to co-parent already is.”
One more person wrote, “You’re not wrong but don’t be surprised if she lies to CPS or tries various other ways to get in the way of your custody time. She clearly has mental issues going on.
When you start filing, give your lawyer detailed notes of things she has said and done to keep you from spending time with the children, so they are aware there is already a history of interference with her. If you get 50/50 custody, she will go mad.”
Source: brightside.me
