You’re upset because your little feelings got hurt, so you created a giant shit storm pitting 2 siblings against each other?? You should be ashamed of yourself!! All because they didn’t let you invite yourself of their family trip. What makes you feel so entitled to be able to go? It’s their family vacation, so you went & planned your own secretly because you were hurt? You’re 57 years old and CLEARLY have alot of growing up to do. Sad… You’re a pathetic human being
Our reader felt left out of her son and daughter-in-law’s plans. So she decided to make her own to not feel excluded. But her actions caused tension, harsh words, and even distance. Now she wonders if she went too far.
My son and DIL planned a trip and didn’t invite me. I asked if I could come along, and my DIL gave me that tight smile and said, “We want to build memories with the kids, just us.” It hurt, but I didn’t argue. Instead, while they were gone, I quietly planned my own “family trip.” I invited my daughter (from my first marriage) and her kids.
Here’s where it gets worse: a few days later, my daughter showed me texts from my DIL. She had messaged her saying I was “pathetic” for trying to copy their trip and that my daughter should “set boundaries too before I ruin her marriage.” My daughter clapped back hard and told her she had no right to say anything about her family.
Now the whole thing is messy. My son says I need to apologize to his wife, my daughter refuses to talk to him because of the comments, and the cousins—who usually adore each other—aren’t even allowed to play together right now because the parents are clashing.
So yeah, did I do anything wrong when I planned my own family trip after being excluded from theirs?
Christina R.C., 57 years old
