Let me start off with I have a great relationship with my SIL and her older kids 18, 16. Thought I had a great relationship with husband 46 and youngest 13, until last night’s dinner. We went to a nicer Italian restaurant and I was completely embarrassed and furious with the way they acted. Husband was complaining about everything from where we had to park, why we had to wait when we had a reservation (which he made us late for by taking his sweet time getting ready) to the prices and menu options. We get apps enough for everyone to have at least 2 of each thing he grabs half of all of them because he couldn’t wait to eat, then complains about whatever he can with the food.
13 yo is wearing pajamas pants and a tore up hoodie because “Dad said it was fine”, it wasn’t but they still sat us. Waiter comes to take our order husband order some crazy modified pizza and bitched when they charged accordingly, 13 yo couldn’t order for themselves? Idk why but whatever. Me and SIL have both worked in restaurants for years and this is the part that made me want to leave, husband has both earbuds in watching anime at the table and shakes his empty Mt. Dew glass at the waiter… then laughs about how he didn’t have to even say anything to get a refill!?!
Check comes and one of the apps I was paying for was on their bill, easy fix, but husband yells “how hard is it to do it right the first time”. That’s when I almost lost it and just followed the waiter to the POS and paid for me and the 2 oldest food. Said bye to SIL the 2 oldest and left. She later called me and asked if they did something wrong so I laid it out about how embarrassing her husband and youngest were. I was told that no one else has a problem with them. Then get a call from Mother in-law thanking me for being the only other person to call at least they husband out for his shit.
So am I the asshole or was I right to be embarrassed and pissed off?
This is my wife’s sisters family, my wife passed in 22
